Lil Bitty

http://www.dailygood.org/story/1273/the-capacity-for-successful-solitude-jessica-gross-sherry-turkle/

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to know enough about yourself and who you are, and be comfortable enough with that. That way, when you are with another person, you’re not trying to make that person into somebody you need them to be in order to buttress a fragile sense of your own self. You can actually turn to a person and see them as another person, and have a real relationship with them.*